Repairing Your Relationship After Betrayal

  1. Minimize: It was just sex. It didn’t mean anything to me. It barely qualifies as cheating.”
  2. Move on too quickly: Why do we have to continue talking about this? This isn’t good for us. We need to focus on moving forward.”
  3. Shift Blame: If we had more sex at home, I wouldn’t have done this.”
  4. Gaslight: If you think I’m checking out that woman, you’re being paranoid.”
  5. Offer empty promises: You can have access to anything of mine.”
  6. Avoid: I’m tired. It’s been a long week at work. Let’s talk about this later.”
  7. Defend: I’m not saying I’m cheating but who could blame me if I was?”
  1. Your inappropriate behavior(s) has stopped
  2. Your commitment to establishing healthy boundaries to keep everyone safe
  3. Your willingness to change and commit to behaving differently
  4. Your willingness to repair the relationship via therapy

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